Marriage, Divorce & Remarriage

Two wedding rings, elevated view

Here is a scenario that I have personally faced and need your insights on. Please don’t worry about my feelings or any such nonsense as that. Just keep it real.

Many Ministries, Churches and Denominations, particularly some of those who call themselves Baptist, Apostolic or Pentecostal, have stated plainly that they will not allow divorced persons to preach in their pulpits or pastor in their churches.

Although the person was innocent of any wrong doings or adultery and legally and morally divorced before they were saved according to the Commands of YHVH in HOLY SCRIPTURES (John 3:3-7 and Acts 2:38), many churches, denominations and believers still scorn divorcees and view them as disqualified, especially if they are remarried.  In other words, they have rejected what God has accepted.

Now in view of 2 Corinthians 5:17 that says, “Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new,” what is your position on such matters?  How can a born again Saint of Almighty YHVH whom GOD has accepted and gifted with His Holy Spirit still be treated as if he never repented.

Please state your convictions in comments.

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Here is my response and I believe God’s position.

We all agree with the scriptures that say that our past lives are dead and have been forgiven through the blood of Christ by repentance and being buried with Christ by baptism into water in His Name and we are raised as new creatures in Christ Jesus. (John 3:1-7, 2 Corinthians 5:17, 1 John 1:7, Romans 6:3-4, Galatians 3:27, Acts 2:38)

Therefore, if we are new creatures, free from our former sins and transgression and their penalties, the former things have no claim or power over us. (Ephesians 2:1, Romans 6:12, Romans 8:11)

So why do we live as though we are still under the judgment and penalty of our former lives? Why do we allow the confused, hurt, hardhearted, unforgiving, uninformed, self-righteous, judgmental and damaged souls to dictate morals and parameters to us that govern our new life in Christ and make us miserable and lonely for the rest of our lives? (1 Timothy 4:3)

Why do we allow churches, preachers, pastors and others to chain us to our former unsaved lives and adulterous spouses when God has released us from such horrors through His blood and our former unfaithful and adulterous spouse have freed us through their sinful fornication? (Matt. 19:9, 1 Corinthians 7:15) Is it because we trust religion, religious leaders and church misinterpretation of scriptures more than we trust in the BLOOD of CHRIST and the WORD OF GOD and THE HOLY SPIRIT?

God is not the author of confusion nor does He force His little children to live in unsaved, adulterous, sinful and soul damning conditions. Nor does YHVH prohibit them from marriage within the body of Christ (The Ekklesia) after having been offended through infidelity in a former marriage. (1 Corinthians 7:15)

Why would a good, just and gracious GOD punish the innocent for the sins of the guilty by not allowing the innocent to marry anew?

God never sends a married person back to their former spouse as that would be an abomination. (Deuteronomy 24:1-5, Jeremiah 3:1, 1 Timothy 4:1-4, 1 Corinthians 7:8-9)  However many religions have done just that in the name of the LORD.

Parenthetically speaking, the HOLY SCRIPTURES never uses the term “Remarried” to describe anyone who has been morally divorced and married anew.  That term or stigma or stereotype  was created out of a false doctrine that was meant to demean and demonize folks who had resisted the idolatrous Church of Roman Catholicism from which sects of Protestant churches (denominations) derived their legalistic views of Christianity and holiness.  (Deuteronomy 24:1-4)

There is much individual and spiritual discernment regarding the question of marriage after divorce and it all hinges on the Grace of God in that particular situation.

We know that God’s Word doesn’t contradict itself and there is plenty of evidence that marriage after a morally legitimate divorce is not sinful but permissible within the Faith (EKKLESIA).  However, since only God knows the secretes of the heart and the wickedness of one’s soul, I must say that what God has joined together, man cannot give a reason for separation or divorcement. Only God can. But this assumes that the marriage was based upon the LAW of GOD to begin with and that God conducted and united the couple in the first place.

Wrong assumptions lead to erroneous conclusions and corrupt doctrines and practices. 

Let us be sure that it is God doing the joining and not we ourselves or civil government. Many folks mistake civil marriage for GOD’s ordained marriage but they are not the same.   There is a separation and a fundamental difference between “whom God joins together” and whom the cultural and civil authorities join together.  A civil marriage is a “civil union” registered with the county or state of legal jurisprudence.

This differences between “Whom God joins together” and whom the cultural and civil authorities join together has never been made more obvious than in the Supreme Court’s decision to legalize same-sex marriage and effectively oppose and de-define God’s institution of marriage and family.

The secular civil government has its own laws governing their authorized licensed marriages.  That is why they have their own divorce courts and divorce lawyers and that is why they issue the marriage  licences and the churches do not.

Many heterosexual couples have entered into a civil union thinking that they have entered into a Holy Institution of marriage by God.  But when they purchased a marriage license from the civil authorities, they acknowledged that their marriage was not under GOD but under civil authority. (Please See Marriage Divine for more information)

Everyone who has the Holy Spirit must be directed by The Spirit and their own convictions regarding their own marital and/or divorce experience in the light of what God’s Word says regarding their particular circumstances.  It is a uniquely personal matter between the couple and GOD.  There is not one shred of Scriptural evidence that indicates that it is the work of other saints or Men of God to discern for a couple if their divorce is morally  legitimate in the sight of GOD.  Their confession should be to GOD who judges rightly the hearts and actions of all men and women. (Matthew 5:27-28)

YHVH is the only One who can declare a person clean and eligible for marriage or guilty of fornication (the breach of a marital covenant) and therefore ineligible for marriage after being divorced – their punishment for infidelity.

Let me be clear! This is divine principle can only be applicable to those who have surrendered to God, believed the Gospel, repented and have been baptized into water in the name of Christ Jesus and filled with His Holy Spirit. In deed this cannot be applied to the unsaved nor can we expect the disobedient and wicked to understand anything about God or His way. (Romans 8:9, 1 Corinthians 2:14) However, those who have been born again and received the precious gift of GOD’S Holy Spirit are approved by GOD and therefore eligible for marriage within the Ekklesia of CHRIST.

This is a very personal issue and is ultimately the decision of the male and female parties involved. Those who have never been divorced or forced to live in an adulterous household or who have been indoctrinated to live a lifetime as a slave in a loveless marriage should keep quiet about what they do not know and never have experienced. (Matthew 7:1-3)

Divorce Not Bound

So if the Son shall set you free, you will be free indeed. (John 8:36)

Copyright © Othealor W. Prince 2012
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TO GOD BE THE GLORY!!!

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